an ode to foreigners*, sorry if you are one

on a regular basis, i deal with foreigners, people not from here.  i love people from all sorts of places with all sorts of backgrounds.  i love them all.  i even married one.  my own little special foreinger.  hi thomas!

but right now, one of them, one of those cute little foreigners is doing something that drives my little miss manners self nuts.  and i know it is totally american etiquette here.  and s/he does not know the difference.  that s/he has good intentions and is not aware of the awkward situation created, nor that things are done a certain way.  i also know that muricans are just as guilty of doing this.  but let me just say:

when it comes to a party, don't invite yourself or assume you are invited just because you know the honoree.  it makes the honoree feel guilt and it imposes on the hostesses.

*the reason i single out foreigners in this one is because it deals with a "shower" and since showers are typically an american thing, i tend to deal with this a lot when showers come up... foreigners don't always know how these things go down and on an occasion, as in for the past week, things get very uncomfy.